There's one husband in our married couples Bible study who still plays video games, and he happens to be newly married, no kids. Seems like having offspring puts a damper on a man's gaming mojo, so K has had a hard time really connecting with anyone in the group. But now that he's discovered this potential friend, we have a big roadblock... his wife!
Let's call them Mike and Mary. Mary is the same girl who wanted to give me her husband's copy of Halo because he was overplaying it. So K and I thought, why not invite them over for dinner, and afterward the guys can try out some video games together while I entertain Mary with chit chat and baby Dexter? Perfect plan, right? Yeah, not so much. First, Mary complained that the TV was too loud, so they had turn the volume down waaay low and couldn't hear the dialogue in the tutorial. Second, she wouldn't stop bugging the guys and kept hovering around and checking up on her husband. Hmm, maybe next time we'll try a different tactic where I invite Mary out to Starbucks (her weakness) so the men can have some time by themselves.
Several of my female friends don't understand the need for "guy time," where men hang out with other men and can be their natural, uh, uncouth selves. They can freely release bodily gases, make baby-eating jokes, and vent about their girlfriends/wives. Even some of K's male friends don't understand "guy time." One of his buddies is so joined-at-the-hip to his girlfriend that it's become increasingly difficult to invite him to guy-only game nights. So when K wanted to set up a first person shooter LAN party one weekend, he reluctantly extended the invitation to said girlfriend as an experiment. Well, as cool as Kelly is, her presence just changed the dynamics of the whole room. Being new to the group, they weren't sure how far they could push their joking and what might offend her. And she didn't seem to quite get when friendly fire is funny and when it's really, really annoying. ^_^;;
I don't know, I can see it both ways. On one hand, maybe once they get to know her better, things won't be as awkward. On the other hand, sometimes men have things they can only say and do around other men, and no matter how tomboy-ish or laid back a girl may be, it's just not the same when the other gender is around.
What do you think? Should we give the poor guys their "man cave" time, or is it sexist and backwards?