|My dreams are always pretty fantastical... like winged tigers giving me a tour of my newly purchased pagoda.|
Ever since Dexter was born, I've been even more hard-pressed to fit in fun time of any sort. However, now that Monster Hunter 3 Ultimate is out (and is a game that K and I can co-op together) I'm pretty motivated to make time to relax and have fun at night. But... the chores! So many of them await. What's a new mother/monster hunter to do?
Get Help with Prioritization
If up to me, I would never stop doing to-do's. K, on the other hand, won't even let me say the words "honey-do list;" he likes to thoroughly enjoy his evenings and weekends off from work. This may seem like a mix for trouble, but instead we balance each other out. K realizes that stuff has to get done but he hates seeing me stressed out, so now he helps me to prioritize our tasks for the week. I show him my massive "everything that's falling apart in the house" list, and he selects 4-5 things for each of us to complete. It actually works because as soon as I'm done with my chores (as well as a couple of extra for good measure ^_~), I really do feel like I can sit down and get my game on, guilt-free.
Dedicate Family Time for Chores
Another thing K hates is when I give him tasks sprinkled here and there throughout the day because, well, that's the way I think: "Oh, this thing needs to be done! I'll just tell K about it right now or remind him for the 15th time." The result is that poor hubby is always on edge, thinking I'm going to ask him to do yet again something else as soon as he settles down to rest. The compromise is that we're adapting a tradition from his family – dedicating Saturday mornings as family chore time. You'd be amazed with how many to-do's you can knock out in 3 hours. And that way, you can enjoy the rest of your weekend!
This whole "to-do list" situation has been a point of stress in our marriage for over half a decade, but with these two solutions implemented, I find myself with less built-up stress and more time to hunt monsters - without feeling like I should get up and do "something productive." Sometimes you just need to pause, slow down in life, and kill a few digital dinosaurs. :)
What are your best practices to get chores done, while still making time for some well-deserved, guilt-free R&R?